Sexy Sixty

Is Sex after 50 like an older man's hair - first it Recedes, then it leaves? That may sound like a cruel joke, but regrettably there's some truth to it. The good news in your 60's: You’re savoring your relationship, and the sex could be better than ever. At every age, sexologists agree, satisfying lovemaking has less to do with frenzied intercourse than with kissing, cuddling and leisurely, playful touching all over, that includes the genitals but doesn't fixate on them. This message is often lost on testosterone-fueled younger men. A new poll busts stereotypes about the sex lives of older Americans - and reveals gender and health-related divides on key aspects of sexual health. Forty percent of people between the ages of 65 and 80 are sexually active, according to the new findings from the National Poll on Healthy Aging.

Nearly three-quarters of people in this age range have a romantic partner and 54 percent of those with a partner are sexually active. Older men, less driven by their hormones, can learn to embrace outercourse - mutual whole-body pleasuring with fingers, lips, tongues and sex toys. This alternative approach enables them to enjoy deeply satisfying lovemaking without intercourse, or even erections. Much has been said about the 50's woman, and recently a Sista wrote about Sex in our Fifties & Beyond, and stated . . . . "we want to keep it exciting. We need to think outside the box, or the bedroom for that matter. Take that show on the long as it doesn’t involve any indecent exposure..haha! I find that just changing the time of day from the norm, makes the act adventurous and enticing.". . a very good read. This is so true for ALL Ladies including us older gals. Keeping it Spicy is the key to longevity. We just have no time at all for Mr. Boring.

In your 60's the key to romantic success is understanding that both of you are experiencing body changes!

  • Your relationship status is happy . . . In your 60s, your enhanced social intelligence and ability to compromise make living together easier. A whopping 98 percent of people in their late 60s say they are “very” happy with their marriage. How about the sexy single senior?  In order for her to be happy she has to have a fairly decent dating life, and that is not so easy anymore.
  • You’re having a great time in bed. A study of older women (median age 67) in the American Journal of Medicine found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age, and the majority of women in their 60s reported achieving orgasm most of the time or always. And the 2017 Singles in America survey sponsored by, discovered that the age of greatest sexual satisfaction was 66 for women and 64 for men.
  • But staying healthy is important. People who gave their health top ratings were 30 to 50 percent more likely to still be sexually active in their 50s, 60s and 70s than were those in poor health, according to an in-depth study. And if good health leads to more sex, then it makes sense that more sex is good for your health.
  • The more sex you have now, the lower your risk for dementia in your later years.  A 2018 study in the Journals of Gerontology looked at 73 participants ages 50 to 83. Each underwent a cognitive assessment and answered a questionnaire on general health and lifestyle. Researchers reported that weekly sexual activity was a significant predictor of higher cognitive function.
  • It may be happening a little less often. In college, a man’s refractory period (the time he needs between having orgasms) can be as short as three to five minutes. Men in their 60s, however, may need up to 24 hours to recover from a between-the-sheets workout before they are ready for the next round.  If they have very little interest in the first round, they need to consult with their health care provider before you throw in the towel.

Many single ladies my age do not want a man in his late 60's who has plumbing problems, and we are finding out that many of them do. Therefore we have to be more selective and seek those, slightly younger with less baggage who still want to enjoy life.  How young do you want to go?  Surely a man in his 30's have nothing in common with me, and some in their 40's still have small children to support and take to Disney world. The 50's man is suspect if he was never married, have no house, no career and still talking about 'just dating'. Really? What have you done with your life?  Then, there is Cougardom, where so many older gals live and not where I want to hang my hat. I cannot forget Kyle of TLC My Strange Addiction who loved dating Grandmas. It opened the eyes of many seniors and it became entertainment for my Mom after she cringed at the first show. Yes. . it was fictional & made for TV, but there are many grandmas out here dating college aged men and think they are Hot. Only to be cooled down when the dude moves on or their children find out.
After 50, men's and women's erotic sensibilities start to converge. Men need more time to become aroused; as erection and intercourse grow problematic, men warm up to the idea of whole-body sensuality. "Compared with young lovers," says developmental psychologist Richard Sprott, . ."older couples are more sexually similar. Couples who appreciate this can enjoy richer, more fulfilling sex at 65 than they had at 25 - even if the men can't manage intercourse."  Say what!. . 65 better than 25?  Nah!!. . .Sorry Mr Sprott, the majority of women in my age group would not be in agreement.  My Aunty used to say - "The only thing an old man can do for her, is to take a message to a young man".  Nonsense!  Just, put yourself First & Love who gives you Extreme Joy. . .

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